01. How to remove the NOT from the Nuptial kNOT?
Introduction
We read so many stories and watch so many movies that end with a happy marriage. But does those marriages really stay as happy marriages?
Do you think everyone have a 'happily ever after…' life?
We all know the answer. It's a big NO!
But why? Why can't we have the same romantic and happy life after marriage?
There are no predefined rules and regulations to lead a happy life.
In this series, let us look into aspects that we can change or mend ourselves to make our marriage life happy.
01. Talk! Talk! Talk!
What do you think is the main link that connects the dot between a husband and wife?
Love?
Care?
Trust?
Yes they all are very important but the most important thing that makes a couple bond is the communication.
No relationship can live long without good communication.
Free discussions and general chit-chat helps to unload your mind and heart with your spouse.
This also helps to improve the understanding between the couples.
So should I be able to predict what's in my spouse's mind to be a good husband or wife?
Not really!
Husband and Wife relationship is very different from other relationships. You have a very special bond with that one and only special person.
So obviously you and your spouse should be able to freely share all the good and bad things amongst yourselves.
It's the feeling of he or she is there to listen to me!
So you need not have a lengthy tiring conversation daily to show that you care.
A simple SMS asking your wife if she had Lunch…
A simple phone call asking your husband if he reached office on time…
An informal chitchat in the evening or night with your better half talking about your day…
These small things are the ones that bonds your relationship with your spouse.
If you have watched Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge, there's a scene where Parida Jalal calls Amrish Puri daily at the same time to find out if he reached the shop on time. Her younger daughter Chutki teases her for that.
But isn’t that cute? If you look closely, all the successful couples will have their own footprints like this in their relationship.
So is talking only about sharing stuff?
No, not really! You can argue too!
There's no healthy relationship without arguments.
But while arguments are good to some extent, you both should also know the limit!
If there's something bothering you, talk to your spouse!
Also be a good listener. Just as you expect your spouse to understand you, it's important that you listen to your spouse's feelings too.
There are people who just keep talking and never bother to listen. These type of one way communication will not help you in any way!
Always give and take! Listen and Silent are spelled with the same letters. Think about it!
You wouldn't believe the amount of knowledge you can gain about your better half through these nice chit chats!
It really helps you to understand the small small things that your spouse like!
I know a nice young couple, Kavitha and Kumaresh. Kavitha is from an orthodox family. She is taught to keep her likings and feelings to herself.
Kumaresh is a loving and understanding husband. He didn't compel Kavitha to change herself into a modern girl.
Instead, daily he spent quality 30 minutes with her daily. There's no specific topic that they would discuss… They would talk about their school life, college life, life before marriage…
They also used to talk about the happenings of the day!
On her birthday that came after six months of their marriage, Kumaresh surprised her with a beautiful sky blue saree. Kavitha was damn surprised not just because of the saree but also because that 'Sky blue' color is her favorite color!
Do you think Kumaresh had to hire a detective to find that to surprise his wife?
Do you think Kumaresh asked about it from his wife to find it?
No, during one of their casual talk, Kavitha mentioned about the beautiful sky color which is her favorite! Kumaresh noted it down and surprised her with his gift!
These are the small incidents that add spice to your marriage life!
It also gives you opportunity to show that you care!
You wouldn't believe what a simple, positive talk can do to relationships?
It can help you to fix up broken hearts!
So what are you waiting for? Talk to your spouse today and spice up your marriage!
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